To explain about soul mate concept, he shared an interesting incident that happened in his life and I am sharing the same here.(well, i listened to the talk only once, so below given story is what i vaguely remember)
One morning, he was in the kitchen trying to make the breakfast for his two daughters (when both were kids) while their mom was away. While cooking, he listened to the conversation between both of his daughters.
‘Will you be wearing shoes if you don’t have legs?’ asked the elder one to the younger one.
The younger one got irritated, ‘what kind of ridiculous question is this? – Will I be wearing shoes if I don’t have legs?? Arggghhh’
‘Well answer me’
‘Why should I wear shoes if I don’t have legs? No way’
‘Then why are you wearing the bra?’
What he later saw was, his younger one rushing to room :)
According to him, his elder daughter is the soul mate of younger one. However, his story brought in a whole different perspective.
I was always under the impression that the soul mate is someone who actually understands us very well – like a perfect match you know?
Soul mate need not be the perfect match for our likes and dislikes, in fact he/she should be the one who challenges us and moves us forward and never leaves us.
Suppose you have a person who never leaves you, who always persuade you to push beyond the lines that you draw for yourself – Can that person be called soul mate?
Else, if he/she is a person who is a perfect match for all your likes and dislikes, won’t that be boring? – I mean, I agree. What we all wish for is a person who is always in sync with us who never argues, who never fights and who is in perfect harmony with us.
Still, you know the imperfect soul mate seems to be more interesting isn’t it? – The one who keeps pulling you, the one who complaints, the one who ‘never leaves you’ (no matter what happens) ?
You might have got stuck with such a person in life and you can neither leave nor quit that person’s influence in life?
Is that the real soul mate?
Though she/he might be having a lot of flaws, may be that is the ‘perfect’ one for you which you don’t realize at all? – Don’t you think that is the reality?
May be they are the ones whose hands which will never leave you?
May be they are just brought to us to make us realise what we really are?
May be they will challenge us, fight with us, irritate us
Still, those are the ones which brings us the moments of Reality
The realities whose shadows cast our life
And those are the moments which are always treasured - knowingly or unknowingly!
PS: Thanks to Ajit for sharing the talks of Wayne Dyner.